It's Not Me, It's You

There has never been a line so overused in a break up than the infamous, "It's not you, it's me." Dan and I had a conversation about the validity of this statement because, let's face it, most of the time the person saying it really means it the other way around. It's the "nice" way of breaking up with someone. It's like saying, "You're great. I'm the asshole that's changed so you shouldn't feel badly about this break up situation."

The reality of it is, the person doing the break up doesn't actually feel that way. I looked back at the few moments I used that line, and I never meant it. I just didn't want to say, "You're too short, and I thought I'd be fine with it, but I guess I'm not." Perhaps the better way to phrase the cliche is, "You haven't changed, but I just realized that I can't deal with that," or, "You haven't changed, and I'm bored now." It might not be as nice, but you know it's the truth.

If, for some miracle, you've actually used this line and meant it, please enlighten me.

Other classic break up lines:

1. “You deserve someone better.”
2. “I just need some time to find out what I want.”
3. “I need some time to experiment and find out who I am.”